Success on a Saturday

I found this list in Pinterest and seems like its been around for awhile. Reading the first suggestion struck me. I live around and see so many unhappy people who are miserable because of who they married. Who knew choosing a mate is really one of the most important decisions?

A pastor once said people marry people for the wrong reasons everyday. Men marry their baby mama and become an instant family, but they never should have had a baby together. People marry their one night stand, but they never should have had sex. People marry folks who they don't even know and are surprised when it doesn't work out.  No offense to anyone if this is your story just my opinion : )

He said wait for your wife/husband and marry them, not just some random person you fall in like with.

The more I look around I realize making a superficial decision would be the biggest mistake of my life. I'm waiting for the man that LOVES ME and I love back!  I want to feel it and KNOW it in my spirit.The waiting is hard, but now that I see the repercussions. I'll wait.

This a great list! I think if we strive to follow the things listed all of our lives really will improve. How many of the listed do you know you already follow?

P.S. I don't know what these last two posts are about. I guess I'm in an enlightened, reflective place.

How old would YOU be if you didn't know how old you are?

 I don't want to be boxed in by your rules for my life!

Lately I've been really concerned about getting older... I don't want to be concerned. I had my life planned out and expected to have achieved certain things by now. You know... the regular stuff like husband, family, awesome career and extreme wealth. lol

I recently celebrated a birthday and here I go again evaluating what I don't have and being kinda sad about it, and I don't want to be sad! I usually take a day or two to wallow in my stuff, then I pull myself out and keep it moving, however sometimes... some things... linger...

One thing I stopped doing was telling people my age or my business. There is such pressure when people know your exact age and I don't like it! I want to do what I want to do, be how I want to be, and act how I want to act, be it childish or mature.

I don't want to be boxed in by your rules for my life!

Ask yourself, how old would YOU be if you didn't know how old you are? How would you be living your life?

I find that people label you and have expectations for YOUR life once they learn your age. As long as they don't KNOW your age and assume you are younger (because you look it) there's no problem. Once they learn the truth all of a sudden you can't act a certain way, dress a certain way, etc. So I find it easier to just not to say.

Society, family and friends get us so bogged down with what we should do be doing by 20's, and 30's.  Succumbing to these expectations get people so messed up.

I don't want to be boxed in by your rules for my life!

I look around and see so many unhappy people because they are living their lives by others expectations of them and I NEVER want that to be me again. I used to be so concerned about what my family thought of me and tried to be so perfect. It's exhausting being perfect! Now, I just want to stay happy and be fly doing me!

I have such hope and expectation for 2012... well ... I have such hope for every year but most of all I'm really just trying to accept God's timing for my life and to be ready when the things I desire happen.

...and I won't be

and to answer the question forever 28!

Can We Discuss Game of Thrones????????

Maaaaaaaaaaaan listen!!!! Once again HBO has created a series that is OFF THE CHAIN!!!!!!!!! (yeah I said OTC) LOL! The second season of Game of Thrones is already off to a great, thrilling start. Each week I'm excited that I can watch the show with my peeps on the East Coast and tweet about it. Sometimes I'm so engrossed I forget to tweet. Let's talk about this week's episode.

Joffrey is a straight up sadistic pervert! I can't wait for him to DIE!!  Somebody tweeted, "The Joffrey Baratheon hate is real out here in these streets." < True dat!!

Tyrion is a BOSS! I am loving his character more and more this season.

I'm so worried about Arya I want her people to come get her NOW!

And lastly,

What in the WORLD came out of that witch???????????

 I KNOW Y'ALL WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT!

THOUGHTS?

OPINIONS?

Chime in Game of Throne-rs

THE AFTERMATH

CONCLUSION
So to recap... I confronted and gave Talky an example of how she spoke to me and she told me that she didn't say it nasty and loud like that. I told her she did! Then she fake apologized.  She was frazzled. She definitely didn't expect me to pop back through that door that fast. I said Uh uh (no) and walked out.

While I was out she went to the Manager over the department...

and TOLD on me!

So after all that loud talking and posturing this heffa TOLD! 

 

When I got back I saw she had left the chairs all askew and my desk papers all disheveled. Itchin for a beat down! That’s when I went to the supervisor. I could see we were about to have a REAL problem! Her name officially changed from Talky to GHETTO BIRD! The supervisor is the one who told me what the Ghetto Bird had done. The supervisor wanted me to go to the Manager and tell her my side so I did. 

The bird’s story must have been EPIC because the Manager was looking at me like I was crazy!! She said my recap of the event was completely different than what the GB said, and asked the supervisor did she witness it. This made me angrier because the Manager seemed to be on the GB side.

The Manager suggested we all meet so she could hear both sides. I readily agreed because after what happened I wanted a chance to hear what that Ghetto Bird had said about me and I told the Manager that I do not want to work my final days in a hostile work environment over something so petty.

So I waited all day for the meeting and it Never Happened! The rest of the day was uncomfortable. You could feel the tension and they all kept flocking together.  Ugh!
I seriously considered ending my contract at the end of the day. And now I consider the manager a liar too.

Fast Forward...

So today the Ghetto Bird didn’t even come to work. It would be great if she stayed gone until I'm done.

I asked Twitter, "does that make me look like the bad person or her look guilty?" What do y’all think?  

I prayed really hard this morning just for the strength to go in. It was so hard to go, but I did. I was so NOT feeling it. This incident turned what was an easy breezy contract into something silly and uncomfortable. I Thank God for the peace of today!!

You wouldn't believe how quiet it was! Full Force was there GB bird buddy, but she left and I never saw her I only heard her briefly.

I don't want this bird to mess up my money. I have to wait and see how tomorrow is because I'm really not here for the drama! I just have a few days left and I would like for them to be calm.

Keeping it REAL in the Nine Quad

Remember when people used to say that or was that just a Cali thing? Anywhoo, I thought it was so stupid because the radio station used to say it and this dude I know used to say it too. Anyway, today I'm keeping it real in 2012 because I feel like sharing.

I flipped out today. 

I'm mad at myself about it too. *sigh*

First, I need to update y'all on my goings on. I like money. period. point. blank. and  I'm ready to do some BIG things with it. So an opportunity presented itself for me to make some quick money on a brief contract in a school district and I took it.

Anyway, the district they have me in has quite a few African Americans. Don't get me wrong, I love my people but some of us in the workplace have yet to learn professionalism. I pride myself on being a consummate professional in my work environments. From day one I made a few observations about my co-workers and concluded that some for lack of a better word are GHETTO! If you follow me on Twitter then you know I've mentioned Talky and this chick with a V-cut Jeri-curl (she hasn't received real a nickname yet but I have called her Full Force.)

Me and really ghetto chicks really ghetto chicks and I didn't sound right DO NOT MIX!  My appearance, height and cutesy voice misconstrue my perception.

They get it twisted! AND eventually test my gangsta!

Talky told me her whole life story within my first 7 hours of working with her, then a few days later she told me she broke up with her boyfriend and proceeded to give me the unsolicited details of that drama so that's why I named her Talky. I decided the best way to deal with her was to be cordial and listen.

That was a mistake.

People like Talky sometimes mistake kindness for weakness (which is why I usually ignore "ghetto birds") and tend to take advantage. Last week I returned from lunch and Talky proceeds to "go off" on me because of something that happened while I was at lunch.

A. It was her fault and

B. It was HER fault.

It had nothing to do with me, but she needed somebody to be mad at so I had barely walked in the door before Talky started her spiel. I looked at her and said, "I don't care." she said, "Well while your here blah blah blah "

I looked at her with the blankest face ever and was silent.

because if I had said what I wanted to say to her I would have had to leave that day. Anyway, since that exchange she has been short with me which is cool cuz now I don't have to listen to her talk.

This leads me to today. Today I was not in the mood. Since I've been in the dept. she somehow got it in her head that I'm some underling

I'm not.

So today instead of politely asking me to do something she came up to me and in the ghetto-est tone Ever! she basically ordered me to do it. This made me so angry, I got up and walked out. As I was walking, I had the biggest anger knot in my stomach and I had almost made it to my car when I stopped mid-step

pivoted

went back into the office and..

WENT OFF! 

I asked her what her problem was, told her I didn't like her tone or how she came/comes at me and I had had enough! She was caught off guard...

~TO BE CONTINUED

In My Ears..... Atlantic Starr

Have you ever had a song that moved you? I mean like every time you hear it it just does something to you. One such groups songs for me is Atlantic Starr. I like all types of music but lately I've been reaching back to the old school classics of my childhood.

My family was all about get togethers, parties, and family gatherings and music was a central part of each event. Looking back at the pictures from the those times always cracks me up. The clothes, the cars, those hats. My peeps were fancy! Hahahaha!

Anywhoo, I remember hearing some of these songs and they had absolutely no meaning to me then, but now???? *fans self* Imagine your mom or aunt slow draggin (I don't even know why I used that term) or groovin in the corner with the one they loved to these songs. This is Grown Folks music and I feel so grown listening to it. Real love songs! Songs about loving, longing and want, not just about sex like the music today.

Here's a list of  a few of my favorites in the order of like. I'm so glad we have stations that continue to play good music like this. Pause the music player and have a listen.

Side bar: Dudes hair on the Touch a Four Leaf Clover cover. Hahahahahahahahahahahahahaahahhaha!

In My Ears - SWV

90's girl group SWV released a new single awhile back after a looooong hiatus (leelee), a solo gospel career (Coko) and a stint on reality TV (Taj).

I really used to love SWV. Everyone has a soundtrack to their lives and SWV was definitely a part of mine. Do you like the new song? Do they sound the same? What'cha think?

New SWV




Old SWV



Rain

It's Sunday... AND it's EASTER!

repost remix

Happy Easter Everyone!! I hope you have a wonderful day with your family.

When I was younger I loved Easter! I enjoyed going to sunrise service, having breakfast at church, the big Easter egg hunt, Easter baskets, pretty dresses, chocolate bunnies, the pastor preaching "He Rose" and the choir singing "No Greater Love" Ahh the memories.....But when you grow up and learn the true meaning  of Easter and all it stands for, of course the experience is changed. I still enjoy Easter and thank God for it but not as much as I did when I was a kid!

Matthew 28:2 -7 And, behold, there was a great earthquake: for the angel of the Lord descended from heaven, and came and rolled back the stone from the door, and sat upon it. His countenance was like lightning, and his raiment white as snow: And for fear of him the keepers did shake, and became as dead [men]. And the angel answered and said unto the women, Fear not ye: for I know that ye seek Jesus, which was crucified. He is not here: for he is risen, as he said. Come, see the place where the Lord lay. And go quickly, and tell his disciples that he is risen from the dead; and, behold, he goeth before you into Galilee; there shall ye see him: lo, I have told you.

Please pause the music player below and enjoy - No Greater Love- this girl is sanging! lol

Easter Dinner Menu 2012

Hi All,
I haven't done a menu in awhile. This year's Easter menu is short, SWEET and to the point. I love the holidays!

 ~The Menu~
Spicy Honey Roasted Chicken (recipe found here)
Brown Sugar Pineapple Ham (there's no Easter without ham)
Three Cheese Macaroni
Potato Salad
Garlic Green Beans with bacon
Green Salad
Sweet Hawaiian Rolls
~Dessert~
Chocolate Chip Cookie Sundaes

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