Gorgeous Ponderings...

Sunday, June 13, 2010

theCaptain is going through...


TheCaptain is going through a crisis right now and I don't know how to help him. I'm trying to be here for him, but he lashed out at me. I know his anger is not directed toward me but at the situation but it makes it hard to keep being nice to him because I'm sensitive. Also, I always want to fix things!!!!

I know this situation is really affecting him because he was drinking in the am. That's a first! He does the occasional Henny and he drinks beer, but to be drunk in the morning? I'm a little afraid and I don't know what to do? How do you be there when your significant other has a problem that you can't fix?


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7 comments:

P.S. I love this... said...

Hi Gorgeous,

Sorry to hear about your Captain. Men usually aren't vocal about much, especially when they are hurting. All I can offer is to be sensitive to his needs, don't pressure him to open up, let it be at his pace and try not to take his lashing out personally. But don't be a whipping post either.

*hugs*

GorgeousPuddin said...

@P.S. You're right about not being very vocal. I'm finding that out. He told me what was wrong then that was it. I wanted more info and tried to offer solutions. But I see now that's not what he needs. He has to work through it. Thanks for responding so quickly!

Jameil said...

Ask him what he needs from you.

GorgeousPuddin said...

@jameil I'll try that. Thanks!

K. Rock said...

Man, I know the feeling. Just let him know you are available to him. Even though he may never call on you, he will comfort in the fact that you are there.

Don said...

Good question and I am not so sure that I know the answer.

Might want to give him space though.

GorgeousPuddin said...

@K. Rock I hope I've done a good job of showing him I'm here. I've upped the hugs, It's just really frustrating to not be able to fix it!

@Don Yeah I've given him space I've have not brought up anything just trying to do nice things to show I care.